On Prejudice
Mar 13
Prejudice, Racism Comments Off on On Prejudice
What Would YOU Do?
On GETTING Down to Business
Mar 06
Abuse, Bais Din, Court, Divorce, Get, Religion Comments Off on On GETTING Down to Business
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*** UPDATE ***
This article was published on March 6, 2013. On April 30, 2013, the husband and his attorney objected to the publicity. On May 26, 2013, the husband said he was ready to give the Get. On May 28, 2013, after FOUR long years, the husband gave his wife the Get, and along with it, her freedom. To avoid the possibility that the husband would change his mind, the Get was given to the wife via proxy.
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There are many gender inequalities in the Orthodox Jewish world, none more heartbreaking than in the area of divorce. According to Jewish law, only the husband may grant a get – the decree of divorce – and the wife is powerless to leave the marriage without his consent. This system of justice without checks and balances often leaves woman at the mercy of her husband, as she remains an “aguna,” a chained woman, awaiting release.
On You
Feb 13
Abuse, Domestic Violence, Religion Comments Off on On You
You Know That Physical Abuse Is Wrong.
Say It.
On Courtrooms
Feb 11
Court, Pro Se Comments Off on On Courtrooms
I learned many things in my days in the courtroom, things that I will remember for the rest of my life.
I learned about motions, that here they mean papers and not hand gestures. I learned that is was way easier for me to file my taxes than to file my motions, and that judges don’t appreciate it when you submit three motions in four weeks. I also learned that if you file the day before Thanksgiving, nobody likes you.
I learned about courts, that I can’t just call up in the morning and reschedule, and that if I dared to call on my own they called it unethical and they got really mad.
I learned about laws, that just because the big red book says that I am supposed get something it doesn’t mean that I actually will. Just because the judge made it an order it doesn’t mean that it will actually happen, and that just because twenty days have passed I wasn’t going to get the house, the kids, the money, the car and the divorce by default.
On Miseducation
Feb 10
Abuse, Children, Education, Prayer, Religion, Yeshiva Comments Off on On Miseducation
No Torah. No Daas. Just Acceptance of Abuse
There are many times when a Rebbe’s derech of chinuch is difficult on a child. After all, wouldn’t most boys prefer to spend time on their own terms rather than having to sit, write and learn for what is often more than a 9 hour day?
As parents, we trust the mechanchim to find the proper balance betweenn childhood and education, to teach our sons to enjoy learning and to find satisfaction in ameilus batorah.
Most of the time, the yeshiva hadracha is dynamic and effective, this time – it wasn’t.