On Custody 

Jan 25

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  1. May 26, 2009. Brooklyn Family Court. Petition for Custody.
  2. August 27, 2009. Brooklyn Family Court. Petition for Custody.
  3. September 16, 2009. Supreme Court of New York. Summons with Notice for Divorce.
  4. November 6, 2009. Supreme Court of New York. Verified Complaint for Divorce.
  5. August 14, 2017. Superior Court of New Jersey. Motion for Custody Pending Order for Relocation.

So far he has sued me for custody FIVE times. This was one response.

The Plaintiff has stated that the living arrangements of our children are “unsafe and unwise” and that I am not a “suitable parent.” I wholeheartedly deny the entirety of his allegations.

It is difficult to conclusively define a “suitable parent.” The temperaments and needs of the children, the nature of the parents, and the circumstances of the home, are all contributing factors. Despite the best of intentions, it is impossible for us as parents to consistently measure up to our own self-imposed standards. I love our children unconditionally, provide for them in the best way that I can and I do my utmost to always be there when they need me.

In contrast, the Plaintiff has deliberately and cruelly perpetuated his continuous economical and emotional abuse of the children, for which there can be no justification. No human being, regardless of the situation, deserves to be subjected to such conditions and it’s particularly difficult for the children to understand the actions of their father and maintain perspective in their paternal relationship under these circumstances.

In consideration of these facts, I appeal that it is in the best interests of the subject children that I be awarded their physical and legal custody, that they live with me in our home, and that I be awarded exclusive occupancy of the marital residence.

(The pro se motion in entirety resulted in a pendente lite award of physical custody and exclusive occupancy of the marital residence, culminating in sole legal and primary residential custody.)